Posts Tagged ‘Expats’

I just met a twitter follower for tea at Chai House, a Bulgarian who’s been living in the States for the last nine or so years. It was great fun. We talked about Bulgaria and the States, about college, about work, about visas (I’ve got it pretty easy in comparison), the internet, restaurants and food and a range of other things that people talk about but who share the sense of confusion and dislocation of living into different cultures. .

One of the first questions I was asked was about Bulgaria–something to the effect of did I really like it here? Um, yes. Then I went on for a bit about what I like.

This is however actually a hard question to answer. Most of the time, I like Bulgaria. Only thing is when I don’t like it, I really don’t like it.  But I guess frankly, that’s life anywhere.

We joked around about shopska salad. Yeah, I am not even sure that shopska salad jokes are funny but when you’ve eaten as many shopska salads as I have. These things happen. (more…)


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I get a lot stupid skype spam from performance drugs to stock tips but this week I got this:

European and American women are too arrogant for you? Are you looking for a sweet lady that will be caring and understanding? Then you came to the right place- here you can find a Russian lady that will love you with all her heart. Can’t find a queen to rule your heart? How about beautiful Russian ladies that have royal blood and royal look?

Too arrogant for you? Really, arrogant?!? Someone caring and understanding? What planet are you living on? And rule your heart? I don’t even know what that means. (Oh, and your grammar stinks.)

The whole thing was too much for me. Block user.

However, I did make me think: Ug. It’s not that American (or European) women are actually arrogant or uncaring. Rather this spam is directed to men who are looking for a women who will fulfill their idea of how a woman traditionally is supposed to act and behave. And it’s a cutting attack directed towards those of us who are “arrogant” enough to pursue careers, equality in our relationships and still think that we are women. Awesome. (more…)

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